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How a Dad Remains the Flavor of the Month, Every Month!

6/1/2021

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Dads are in the envious position of being like ice cream. What kid doesn’t like ice cream? I once took my grandson to an ice cream parlor when he was a two-year-old and got him a bowl of ice cream. It was supposed to be the kiddie size, but they accidently gave him a larger portion. He scooped up that vanilla fudge swirl like it was going to vanish before he could finish. When he took the last bite and stared into the empty bowl and said, ‘Put …more…in there.’ I laughed, his mom laughed, and we gently told him “that is enough for now”.

Ice cream comes in a lot of flavors and so do fathers. Whatever flavor of father you may be, you are your children’s favorite! Unless, of course, you give them a colossal reason not to be--and it would take a colossal reason. Children are programmed to love their parents just like they seem to be programmed to love ice cream. The only difference is loving their parents is a much more healthy act.

Kids that never have ice cream, or the love of a father, don’t know what they are missing. They only see that other kids enjoy both and wonder what it is like. They are robbed of something very sweet in life.

Men, who give up on fathering, cheat not only their children, but themselves. The love, the smiles, the hugs are what you will recall the most. And seriously, it is not difficult to be a good father. Of course there are difficult times to go through, but that is where the satisfaction comes in by working though issues and helping your child be a success in life.

Seven Tips Fathers Should Know

Here are seven tips to help any man be a caring father. These are tips from my book, “The Power of Dadhood” and I am expanding on them here. Any man who is aware of and accepts these important aspects of fathering will have no trouble being the flavor of the month, every month!

Neither he nor any other father knows everything or ever will. We do the best we can in every situation and should do what most dads won’t do--ask questions, read up, keep working at it.
His mistakes must not discourage him. Who doesn’t make mistakes? As I said in a recent article, “Success is a series of mistakes interrupted by persistence.” Never quit teaching out of frustration or fear of failure.
His actions are being observed. This is where you must have great awareness. Your actions speak so much louder than words! You can’t be the same man with your kids around as you may be with your drinking or sports buddies. Have principles you live by and teach through action.
He must be consistent, loving, sincere, and available. This may be tip numero uno!!
Humor will be an ally. Be fun to be around! I talked to a 56 year old woman last week who told me she was afraid of her dad. I didn’t take that to mean she respected him. I saw in her face that she was afraid to be herself around him. Joke around and be silly sometimes and watch your kids run into your arms.
His children must experience struggle (supervised, if possible) to learn and grow. As dads, we should never solve our children’s problems for them. We should teach them the skills and resilience to solve them on their own, while we look over their shoulder.
Every child is unique and learns differently and at a different pace. One size does not fit all, not when raising more than one child. Some need a push. Some need reins. Some need more attention at certain times than the others. Never compare your kids because they all have different strengths. One may run faster, but the slower one may read faster. Rewards and consequences could very well be different for each child. A young child with a slight impairment may be cheered more openly and loudly just by taking simple steps whereas the child without the impairment would not get the same attention for the same achievement.

Summary

Yes, dads are like ice cream. But different from ice cream, when a child says, ‘Put …more…in there.’ You don’t say, “That is enough for now”.

Unless of course the dad is being seriously silly that day!

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Nine Reasons Men Often Fall Short of Women as Parents

5/24/2021

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In general, society sees dads as falling short as parents compared to moms. I agree with that--in general. I know many wonderful fathers. In fact, almost all my male friends are great dads. But when you look at the fathers in a much larger framework, across the USA--absent and distant fathers are contributing to an epidemic of social issues. Even effective dads could be more effective with just a few changes. But what are some of the possible reasons for men coming up short compared to women as parents? Here are my observations as an observer of fatherhood

Dads do not carry or give birth to the baby--a distinct disadvantage in connecting. The baby has heard the mother’s heartbeat for months. The mother has felt the kicks. A natural consequence, dad is an outsider for the most part until the child is born.

Dads read about sports, finance, politics, outdoors, bar-be-cuing, etc. – not parenting. It’s true! It was even true for me. I blame myself, but I also blame the fact that few parenting books or articles are written with the father in mind. It’s a chicken or the egg problem. Would more parenting topics for dads be written if they would read them, or would they read more if they were written specifically for dads? I guess the response to my book may answer that.

Dads are told they aren’t as good as moms are with their kids—and they believe it. Call a man a bad sport, or a poor leader, or a whiner and he will be p*ssed! Tell him he can’t parent without his wife’s direction or help, he may just shrug. Some mothers overrule fathers in parenting which should never happen. There must be compromise and agreement in parenting.

Dads don’t talk to each other about being fathers. I watched the Today show the other day and Willie Geist had some of his friends on the air to talk about being dads. When the segment was over he said, paraphrasing, “it was interesting because we never talk about being dads to each other”. It’s true. It’s very rare for men to talk about being dads.

Although changing a bit, dads are not at home with their kids as much as moms. There are more moms working and more stay-at-home-dads (SAHD) than ever before. But dads still are away from home much more than moms. Only 5-6% of families have SAHDs.

Dads assume they are doing the right things as dads, and don’t look to improve. In general, men think providing and being around are all that’s necessary. Well, it’s a good start but there is so much more! It is a rare dad that will consciously look for ways to be a better father.

Nature favors moms as caretakers. Women seem to have a sixth sense about parenting that most men don’t have. I think most everyone would agree. Of course, exceptions do exist.

Society expects moms to take on the bigger parenting role. Historically, it has always been this way. It doesn’t have to be so, and it may not be that way for your situation, but I expect that expectation will remain for quite some time.

Competition among men does not include being good fathers. Be it softball, arm-wrestling, checkers, or fantasy sports, men like to compete. When you compete, you try to get better. But men don’t compete as parents and there is no compulsion to get better other than your personal desire.

It would be unfair to label all men as the weaker parent. But when you see the issues in our society, such as poverty, crime, teen pregnancy and violence, that exist in broad areas of our country, especially in inner cities, know that a primary cause is ineffective families due to missing fathers.

Of the nine reasons fathers may trail mothers as parents, only #1 and #7 are not going to change. The rest can change and have been changing as of late, but the process has been slow. Somehow we need to encourage and mentor fathers or fathers-to-be in their responsibilities as parents, thereby interrupting the cycle of ineffective families. Nothing will change until the offspring of ineffective families get help, or find the energy/desire, to pull themselves out of their situation.

Of those men who are involved fathers, know that your different style is of great value to both your sons and daughters. Two parents means twice the love, twice the variety and twice the protection, at the very least! And as important, being an involved father brings a masculine view of the world to your children, a valuable complement to the feminine view brought by their mothers, allowing their insights and understanding of the world and to be balanced.

Note:
For any dad, my book, "The Power of Dadhood: Be the Father Your Child Needs" will help you, at a minimum, with reasons #2, #3, and #6.

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Agape, the Strongest Love but the Least Expressed!

5/17/2021

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Love is powerful! This statement has been proven countless times, not that it needs to be. Every healthy person needs to be loved and needs to show love. Love helps us live fuller, longer, happier lives. But love is not just a subject or a noun in a sentence. Love is action. Love is best when used as a verb.

Love comes to us and through us in many ways.

There is romantic love (Eros), the love of new beginnings where common sense may take a back seat to passion.
There is friendship love (Philos), where two or more people are engaged in a special relationship. They each gain from each other by also giving to each other.
Lastly, there is unconditional love (Agape), where a person gives love to another person regardless of any benefit in doing so. Whether the love given is returned or not, the person continues to love. This is truly a selfless love and the type of love you find in families.

Clearly, the strongest love is Agape, or unconditional love. A parent will easily give their life for their child. A child will take care of a parent in sickness when the parent can no longer love them back. Brothers, who may fight among themselves, will strongly defend each other from any outside threat. Agape is a self-sacrificing love!

Men and the Three Types of Love

It can be interesting to observe men regarding the three kinds of love. They almost always show their Eros and Philos love. Eros love is almost all show, all action - full of acts of love. Philos love is identified with much action - hugs, bonding ceremonies, and special handshakes. But the strongest love of all, Agape, may often be the weakest love in terms of men committing to it with action. Love is most powerful when it is in the form of an act, when love is a verb.

We can discuss love all day yet never express love, but loving and showing your love is powerful indeed. When a father is listening to his child, he is showing love. When he takes his child fishing, he is showing love. When he says, “I’m proud of you!” he is showing love. Children need this from their father as much as they need it from their mother. Being loved is an essential need of all of us, but particularly important to children.

A smile, a hug, a pat on the back are the signals that remind your child of your love for them. Even disciplining is a sign of love, an act that shows you care. You may know you love your kids, but do they know. Show them a little Philos love occasionally, give them a little of you! It’s what they want most. The more they see it, the less they will need to see it, and their confidence and mental health will soar!

Love is a good subject, but love is even better when used as a verb.

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IF...

5/10/2021

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Preface: This piece was originally posted in May of 2016. I repost it now as my son will be retiring next month
after 20 often very dangerous years in the Army. Whether this poem helped him get through the rigors, boredom, and harrowing events of service and combat, I don't know. I do know I did what I could as his father. I know that, at least, he appreciated my concern and desire to help him. .......................................................................................................................................................................................................................

IF only I could find it! AH! Here it is.

About the same time I started taking notes to write my book on Dadhood, I found a poem by Rudyard Kipling which I believed to be a brilliant summary of what characteristics it takes to be a man. It was also the time when my son was graduating from college and about to join the Army.

I thought this was the perfect message to give to my son as he was about to embark on what turned out to be a most serious, life-altering, and sobering stage of his life. I didn’t know what he was really getting in to, nor did I know what he wanted in life. Neither did my son.

In those moments of fear, doubt, dreams and dread, I thought the words of Rudyard Kipling would give him the wisdom and strength to help carry him forward. But to be sure he would understand the poetic wisdom Kipling said so well, I explained each idea in the simple terms and examples of our time and smaller world. Somewhere, I saved a copy of that letter to my son…IF only I could find it!

For you dads out there with sons. IF you don’t how to explain to your son what it takes to be a man, use the thoughts of Rudyard Kipling and put them in your own words. Words both you and your son can relate to. Or just use Kipling’s own version. He says it so beautifully!

IF

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too:
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream---and not make dreams your master;
If you can think---and not make thoughts your aim,
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same:.
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build'em up with worn-out tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings,
And never breathe a word about your loss:
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!"

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings---nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much:
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And---which is more---you'll be a Man, my son!

Rudyard Kipling

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Mothers, The Enduring Parent

5/3/2021

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“It’s not easy being a mother. If it were, fathers would do it.”
The Golden Girls

Don't forget Mother’s Day! When Anna Jarvis started her endeavor to honor mothers in 1908, she had no idea what it would turn into. Actually, she was appalled at how commercial it became and tried all she could to stop that trend. The commercialization of Mother’s Day is not going to stop. But it is also the day that Anna Jarvis intended – a day to honor the cornerstone of families, our mothers!

We know that Moms and Dads often show caring in different ways. Very generally, Moms soothe while Dads prepare. Moms protect and Dads challenge. Moms are often overlooked and taken for granted by their children, while Dads who interact tend to be more appreciated, especially when compared to less-involved dads.

Moms give us the tenderness we all crave and require. When in need of sympathy or understanding, nine out of ten times we go to our moms. They seem to have this magic power to know what to do. And when in danger, a mom perks up like a bear protecting her cubs. There is no power known to man stronger than a mother defending her child.

Moms are the best! Houses may be built by fathers, but homes are made by mothers. Fathers may provide, but mothers make the most of it. And when fathers don’t provide, the mothers can and will do their very best without their help. My mom did this for her six children, raising us all virtually by herself!

I have, been raised by, lived with, helped conceive, known many, and are related to, wonderful mothers. My mother may admit she wasn’t perfect, but there was no way she could have been. Raising six kids alone and working full time at minimum wage only allows a parent to survive, provide, and give love to her children. She did that heroically!

My wife, Kathy, has been a mom above all other things. She had a career she put on hold for 15 years to stay home with our kids. Not all moms can do that, nor should they have to. But we are happy it worked out for us. Kathy took the kids everywhere and gave them so many experiences. Because of her, our children had happy, carefree days. She made my role as dad one I could enjoy so much more because Kathy took care of so many of the kids basic needs.

My two daughters each have two beautiful children. They are both modern working moms but both have a day or two off during the week because of school-aged children. They are married to great dads and they have both learned from their mom. At their homes, I have seen numerous books on parenting (even mine). It is so wonderful to not have to worry about your grandchildren—being able to spoil them because mom and dad are in full control.

It seems like moms are there for their kids 99% of the time. My sisters and some of their daughters raised their children with little or no help from the fathers. I don’t claim to know why that happens as often as it does, but I credit moms for toughing it out when parenting is more difficult than it should be, because it is never easy!

I hope all mothers out there are recognized for all their sacrifices! And please know, there are sacrifices that they have made that we will never know or understand.

Families are the backbone of our country and mothers are the backbone of our families.

PS. Happy Mothers Day to you wonderful moms out there!!

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It Takes a Village? As a Last Resort!

4/26/2021

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There are large, well-funded organizations that disparage the nuclear family. I cannot, for the life of me, understand that. Anyone at any time can type ‘Fatherless Families’ into a search engine and see the devastation the children of single-parent families go through. Please do it! Or read my book, “The Power of Dadhood.” If you truly can’t afford one, I’ll send one free until I run out.

Understanding that single-parent families will always exist, it is then that the concept of a village comes in to help the family and the children. This concept may work well in certain circumstances, but certainly not most. It works when the extended family is nearby and healthy themselves. It may work in a crime-free small town where single-parent families are rare. But these circumstances are not the issue.
When sizeable swaths of neighborhoods are a large percentage of single-parent families, most led by mothers, you will find crime, drugs, poverty, and gangs. This situation is a village that cannot help families. You can pour welfare funds into these areas, but history finds nothing changes.

In my previous post, I wrote the following:

“It’s time to focus on families! Incentivize fathers to be in the home instead of incentivizing them not to be there. Fix schools and neighborhoods, making them aids and not a hindrance to learning and health. Add police to high crime areas, don’t blame them as they risk their lives. Look to statistics and not rhetoric for true understanding! More youth programs with high-paying jobs to the best men and women who would mentor them. Encourage nuclear families! A village will help to raise children, but not near as well as a responsible two-parent household! Focus on the root cause, not a consequence.”

This post is short and sweet, but not if you do the research. My approach to help children and society will take a generation or two. But we must start now. Citizens and corporations, please know what you are doing when you give to a cause or organization; some intend to de-emphasize the nuclear family for reasons I cannot fathom. Others will help!

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Guns and Families

4/19/2021

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How are families connected to gun violence? Gun violence destroys some families; for that, there is no doubt. But families can also be a critical factor in reducing gun violence.

Guns

I can neither call myself a lover nor a hater of guns. In the Air Force, I was an expert marksman in the .38 handgun and the M16 rifle. I also enjoy target shooting with friends as a civilian. But I am neither a hunter nor an owner of a gun. I bring this up hoping to relay my relative indifference - pro or con - to ownership of firearms; although I strongly support the Second Amendment.

Most people are not aware that more citizens are killed by knives than rifles in criminal acts. But we don’t make it difficult to buy knives because it is impractical. Similarly, making gun ownership more difficult, when hundreds of millions guns already exist, bought and sold illegally, is not a real answer. Coverage of tragic events involving guns mostly blame the availability of guns while de-emphasizing the motives of the perpetrators. Guns in the hands of responsible people prove that availability does not equate to crime.

More gun laws will do little to help because the current gun laws are broken many times every day. But there are too many, very accessible, illegal guns, and their tragic impact must be minimized. I propose there is a way to do this by concentrating more fiercely on the perpetrators and their motivations.

Controlling guns will do little to stop violent acts when the real problems causing their misuse are: 1) uncontrollable anger, 2) too many lost souls, 3) the loss of respect for others, and 4) the loss of responsible behavior by those raised without caring parents in strong households. Correct these issues and gun violence will be minimized significantly. And how do we do this?

Families

We’re attacking a serious secondary problem (gun violence) with an approach (more gun laws and more legal restrictions) that ignores the real problem (the breakdown of too many families).

In the two maps above, I show a map of my hometown of St. Louis. One map shows where poor fatherless families live while the other map shows where crimes are committed. Then notice the green areas that have a very large percentage of two-parent homes. Here, there is less anger and very little crime. They correlate almost totally! Every large city will have similar situations.

Guns in these crime ridden areas surely make it easier to kill. But you cannot take criminals' guns away to solve the tragic results because the guns will be illegally replaced almost immediately. The void will suck in guns like a drain swallows water.

But what if the anger was gone? What if young people there had better guidance? What if the youth had dreams to chase, knowing there are loving people behind them, helping and encouraging them? Would guns even be sought? If guns were there, how less would they be used? Without a nail to drive, a hammer sits unused. It's obvious that guns do not have a motive – people have motives.

I would choose to be around a friendly person with a gun than an angry person with a fist because it’s the anger that would hurt me. Either a fist or gun could be used in anger, so you ask, “wouldn’t you rather have the angry person have only a fist and not a gun?”

“No doubt!” I would answer. But that is why controlling the anger is primary since illegal and stolen guns are preferable to fists to an angry person with violent tendencies.

Summary

Mentoring our youth and stopping their anger and fear will stop gun crime faster than any law. It’s time to focus on families! Incentivize fathers to be in the home instead of incentivizing them to not be there. Fix schools and neighborhoods, making them aids and not a hindrance to learning and health. Add police to high crime areas, don’t blame them as they risk their lives. Look to statistics and not rhetoric for true understanding! More youth programs with high-paying jobs to the best men and women who would mentor them. Encourage nuclear families! A village will help to raise children, but not near as well as a responsible two-parent household! Focus on the root cause, not a consequence.

Again, guns don’t have motives; people do. Let’s prevent the reasons (motives) that cause harm to others!

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Less is More? Maybe, Maybe Not, in Parenting

4/12/2021

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I don’t know if it was an ad-man, a philosopher, or a tree-hugger who first said “less is more”. But it is a crock! That’s like saying ‘fat is skinny’, or ‘dumb is smart’. They are not giving you the whole story. They are leaving things out. I saw a Lexus Ad once which stated ‘more is more’. Now that is truth in advertising!

Another way to say the phrase is, ‘less fat is more skinny’, or ‘less dumb is more smart’, or ‘less Taco Bell is more healthy’. It’s all about filling in the void!

See the difference? For instance, is less parenting more parenting? Well, it could be if less parenting means NOT being a helicopter parent, constantly hovering over your children and not letting them think for themselves. But less parenting is NOT more parenting when you are not engaging with them. When something is missing, something else fills that void.

What your child does not learn from you in the way of values and integrity, they will learn somewhere else. Unless you are not a good example, don't leave those lessons to chance. That’s why some boys join gangs when they haven’t a father to reassure themselves of their maleness. It’s why some girls, who don't have a loving father, are easy sexual targets for hormone enraged boys because they want the male acceptance they long for, but don’t have.

I can tell you this, ‘less bad parenting is more good parenting’. Continuing:

Less love is not more love. ---- Less 'smothering' love is more 'effective' love.
Less attention is not more attention. ---- Less attention 'on what’s wrong' is, hopefully, more attention 'on what’s right'.
Less discipline is not more discipline. ---- Less discipline 'may require' more discipline.
Less consistency is certainly not more consistency.
Less love is definitely not more love!
Less time with your kids is not more time with your kids. ---- Less time with your kids may become more time trying to reconnect with them.
Generally, “Less bad stuff is more good stuff!” and, of course, vice versa!

YES, less is only better when you are doing the wrong things. More is always better when doing the right things. As a mother or father, taking more time to think about the right and wrong things you may be doing without even realizing it. And like balancing a portfolio, you want to balance your parenting style as your children grow and even adjust to each child.

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The Young Man and the Old Man (discuss fatherhood)

4/5/2021

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A young man, whose father was scarcely involved in his life, was about to be a father himself. Wary of his future, he wondered if he had it in him to be a better father than his own. Unaware he was already showing positive signs by simply wanting answers, he wanted assurances. Not knowing where else to turn, he looked to an older man he had admired from afar. The young man had said hello to him often, when the older man was in parks with his grandchildren, looking like he was genuinely happy being with them.

One day he approached the old man in the park while his grandkids were playing, formally introducing himself. The young man mentioned having seen him often with his adult children and with their kids, then revealing he was about to become a father himself.

“That’s wonderful,” said the old man. “Congratulations!”

“Thank you!” he responded.

With some hesitation in his voice, he said, “Obviously, you’ve been a father and grandfather…and you seem to enjoy it so much.”

He continued nervously, “I know this is coming out of left field, but I grew up without my father around and my two uncles live far away.”

“I’m so sorry to hear that,” said the old man. “How can I help?”

“Oh, thank you, sir,” said the young man. “I would really appreciate if I could ask you a question?”

‘Sure,” responded the old man.

He asked, “Can you tell me about being a dad? Just what is fatherhood like? What does it mean?”

“Well,” the old man was taken aback by the seriousness of his question. He pondered a bit and said, “I guess I never put it in words before.”

He then continued after more thought. “Fatherhood to me is three things. First of all, it’s a miracle when it happens to any of us. Secondly, fatherhood is an opportunity, the greatest opportunity of your life. And third of all, it’s knowing what you do with that miracle will affect others profoundly!”

“Yes,” said the young man, “I get that. But how do you be a father? What are you supposed to do?”

The old man rocked a bit, his eyes glancing to his grandchildren, then repeated himself to further the point he was trying to make.

“Well, to be a good father, you must realize, as I said, that it’s a miracle placed in your hands!”

Looking up, thinking on the spot, he expanded a bit. “Changing diapers, coaching your child in sports, going to their events, you know, those things are important, but,” the old man looked the young man in the eye, “really, just be there for your children in good times and bad, giving up part of yourself to do so.”

The young man nodded in agreement, whispering, “Yes!”

“And finally,” the old man raised his finger for emphasis, “and this may be most important, you must always be aware that how you interact with your children will impact their lives profoundly! So always think about that!”

The young man was not expecting this kind of answer, so he summarized having listened carefully, “So, being a father is just being there for your kids and letting them know you care?”

“Yes! It’s that simple and that hard,” said the old man. “There are no set answers, but if you remember those three things, the answers will be there for any circumstance that may challenge you.”

The young man leaned back feeling a bit relieved and a bit sad, thinking to himself, “So, this is what I have been missing.”

“I have an idea you will do just fine,” said the old man as he reminded his grandchildren to be careful on the monkey bars.

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18 Valuable Lessons About Fathering from Writers and Publishers

3/29/2021

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As a Fatherhood Advocate, most of what I learn about being a dad is from totally unrelated areas. A few years ago, I was at the Independent Book Publishers Association’s (IBPA), Publishing University. It was one on the most rewarding, and educational conferences I have ever attended!

While I was there to learn about writing and publishing, I also learned lessons I can use to encourage better fathering.

Below are 18 things I learned, or were reinforced to me, at the IBPA Publishing University. They are from my scribbled notes and I could only attribute a few of these directly and some are just observations of mine.

So, in mass, I attribute the following 18 lessons to the speakers, members and staff of IPBA and encourage parents to learn from them!

18 Invaluable Lessons for Parents!

Being around people who share your passion is invaluable

Encouragement is like rocket fuel

You can always learn from others

You always have something to contribute

People are excited to help those who want it

You must have values, a mission, and a plan

You’re always fighting the odds, so you can’t be lazy

There are a lot of ways to skin a cat

Don’t squat with your spurs on (also a book!)

You must have a platform (or you’ll never be found)

Be with your audience

Look into their eyes and be honest

Look for people who want your success

Maintain your position until circumstances change in your favor

A professional is an amateur who didn’t quit

Partner with experts

Do what you have to, even if you don’t like it

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For the dads out there, are not these lessons useful for us as fathers? Even #9!
Thank you IBPA!

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