The Golden Girls
This past Sunday was Mother’s Day. When Anna Jarvis started her endeavor to honor mothers in 1908, she had no idea what it would turn into. Actually, she was appalled at how commercial it became and tried all she could to stop that trend. The commercialization of Mother’s Day is not going to stop. But it is also the day that Anna Jarvis intended – a day to honor the cornerstone of families, our mothers!
We know that Moms and Dads often show caring in different ways. Generally, Moms soothe while Dads prepare. Moms protect and Dads challenge. Moms are often overlooked and taken for granted by their children, while Dads who interact tend to be more appreciated, especially when compared to less-involved dads.
Moms give us the tenderness we all crave and require. When in need of sympathy or understanding, nine out of ten times we go to our moms. They seem to have this magic power to know what to do. And when in danger, a mom perks up like a bear protecting her cubs. There is no power known to man stronger than a mother defending her child.
Moms are the best! Houses may be built by fathers, but homes are made by mothers. Fathers may provide, but mothers make the most of it. And when fathers don’t provide, the mothers can and will do their very best without their help. My mom did this for her six children, raising us all virtually by herself!
I have, been raised by, lived with, helped conceive, known many, and are related to, wonderful mothers. My mother may admit she wasn’t perfect, but there was no way she could have been. Raising six kids alone and working full time at minimum wage only allows a parent to survive, provide, and give love to her children. She did that heroically!
My wife, Kathy, has been a mom above all other things. She had a career she put on hold for 15 years to stay home with our kids. Not all moms can do that, nor should they have to. But we are happy it worked out for us. Kathy took the kids everywhere and gave them so many experiences. Because of her, our children had happy, carefree days. She made my role as dad one I could enjoy so much more because Kathy took care of so many of the kids basic needs.
My two daughters each have two beautiful children. They are both modern working moms but both have a day or two off during the week because of pre-school children. They are married to great dads and they have both learned from their mom. At their homes, I have seen numerous books on parenting (even mine). It is so wonderful to not have to worry about your grandchildren—being able to spoil them because mom and dad are in full control.
It seems like moms are there for their kids 99% of the time. My sisters and some of their daughters raised their children with little or no help from the fathers. I don’t claim to know why that happens as often as it does, but I credit moms for toughing it out when parenting is more difficult than it should be, because it is never easy!
I hope all mothers out there are recognized for all their sacrifices! And please know, there are sacrifices that they have made that we will never know or understand.
Families are the backbone of our country and mothers are the backbone of our families.
PS. Happy Belated Mothers Day to you wonderful moms out there!!