Virtually nothing moves forward successfully without support. Success stories that seem to have miraculously occurred with sheer determinism, seemingly devoid of any support, are rare.
Many years ago I was a bomber pilot in the U.S. Air Force. I thought I had the best job on the crew although it was just a support role. The entire purpose of the aircrew, the ground crew, the logistics organization, etc. was to take the radar navigator (bombardier) to the target, but he couldn't do his job without us!
Any successful person, any well-adjusted child, has a support system that is vital to their success. That support system may be hidden by quiet conversations and stealthy observations. Often, support must be flexible, knowing when to jump in or when to pull away. Being flexible is particularly important when you are a parent, adjusting to each child and circumstance.
Here are some samples (with those characteristics) of support:
- Wings (vital) support an aircraft’s airframe in flight. The airframe cannot do its job otherwise.
- A good foundation (hidden but so important) supports a building. The building above is what everyone notices.
- Ropes (flexible) support a swing. The seat supports the person that swings, but not without the ropes, nor the tree limb.
Know how and when to give your support:
- Help your children to know right from wrong. Don’t help them escape punishment from doing wrong.
- Help them with their education. Don’t do their homework for them.
- Help them learn financial responsibility. Don’t give them money just because they ask for it.
- Help them to have strength of character. Don’t fight their battles for them.
- Help them by having rules and structure. Don't think you're helping by being their friend.