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​Little Heroes Day - A Gold Star Experience

7/31/2017

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This past weekend, my wife Kathy and I had the honor of being a part of an event to honor children who have lost a parent in service to our country. It’s difficult to explain the emotions that filled us as we worked with these young patriots. We could not even imagine what these children and spouses of our fallen have gone through and are still going through. This is why it was very difficult for me, at the end of this event, to do something we usually do for military families. I’ll get to that later.

Our goal was to let these Gold Star families know they are not forgotten. For those that don't know, a Gold Star Family is one who has lost a member of their family in service to our country. 
Three charities banded together to make this day possible. These charities are:
  • Little Patriots Embraced – Mission: To enhance the lives of our Military families in need…While their loved one is protecting our freedom.
  • Dogwood Ranch – “A Place Where The Broken Find Redemption.” A family of foster homes and equine therapy at a working ranch.
  • Dream Riders – “Honoring the Children of Our Fallen Heroes.” Kids that have lost a father, mother, brother or sister in the military are emotionally injured and also need our help. Dream Riders mission is to bring these families together for healing and fellowship in a fun environment.

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Dana Lopez (L) Dogwood Ranch - Carol Watanabe (C) Little Patriots Embraced - Julie Vinnedge (R) Dream Riders
These families, whose lives have been shattered as a result of their service to our country, should never be forgotten! As the motto of Dream Riders states, “Because they deserve happy memories”. And happy memories was another goal of Little Heroes Day. Around eighty children, their families, and scores of volunteers spent a gorgeous day together near Springfield, Missouri learning about horses, doing crafts, and learning how to protect themselves from bullies and potential predators. Halfway through the day, the Marines (Marine Corps League, Det. 993, Springfield, MO.) cooked up a spectacular lunch for all with some of the best cookies I’ve ever had for dessert.

My main duty during the day was to take photos, especially family photos with a ​Dogwood Ranch horse. Each family decorated their horse themselves, which was quite an experience because many of them had previously never been near a horse. Without prying into such a difficult part of their lives, we learned some of their tragic back stories. One little girl, about three-years-old, was without either parent. Her father was killed in action and not long after her mother was tragically killed by a boyfriend. She was being cared for by a volunteer who brought her to me for a photo of her on a horse. She was the only Gold Star Child to get a photo on a horse (see her in the slideshow). The look on her face when she found herself looking down on the mane of Millie (the horse) brought a happy yet sad tear to my eye. I missed capturing ‘the look’, but I did photograph her beaming smile before she dismounted with the help of Dana Lopez of Dogwood Ranch.

A stepfather of one family came to me to thank us for the day. He had just received a medical retirement after fourteen years of service. This hero married a woman with five children a few years after her first husband was killed in action. Whatever he did in the Army, his heroic deed of taking on a family of five very young children easily challenged the valor of his military service. Not many men would take on such a responsibility!

Kathy talked to a young mother of two girls, around nine and eleven years-of-age, who lost her husband four years ago. This military mom says it is still difficult to deal with his loss and she misses him every day. Needless to say, most of the fallen heroes were fathers. This is where, at the end of this precious day, it became very difficult for me. I’ll explain.

Those who read my blog know that I wrote a book that was published two and a half years ago. Through Little Patriots Embraced (LPE), for which I am a board member, we give away copies of my book at most LPE events. This is possible through the generosity of Carol Watanabe, our LPE founder, and Colonel (ret.) & Mrs. George Niemann, who made a large donation to buy these books. But this was a most unusual event honoring the families of fallen heroes - most of fallen were fathers. The title of my book is “The Power of Dadhood: How to Become the Father Your Child Needs”. Needless to say, most of these families were tragically without a father in the home at no fault of their own. Would my book bring heartache to these families for reasons that were too obvious?

However, we made the book available to those who wanted it as we did with Ray Amanat's book, “Bully, Victim, or Hero”. The kids devoured Ray’s book on bullying and self-defense while many of the parents asked for a copy of my book. I think these Gold Star Wives understand better than most how important it is to have a present and active father in the home. Hopefully, they will find another hero in their lives someday.

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This was one of the most special days in the lives of the volunteers of these three charities. It certainly was to Kathy and me – to give back to those who have given so much! It’s never enough – it can’t ever be so. But these families truly appreciate the little we can do, “Because they deserve happy memories” like everyone else, maybe more so!
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Special thanks to a few key people, knowing I am leaving out so many who deserve mention.
  • Carol Watanabe, founder of “Little Patriots Embraced”
  • Brian and Dana Lopez, President and Vice President of “Dogwood Ranch”
  • Julie Vinnedge – “Dream Riders” Executive Director & Treasurer, Gold Star Mother of LCpl Phillip Vinnedge 
  • Steve Presley, a ‘Little Patriots Embraced’ volunteer.
And a very special thanks to our Gold Star Families!

Here is a slideshow of just a few activities of the day.​
9 Comments
Carol Watanabe link
7/31/2017 04:31:46 pm

Michael your words here take my breath away!
It's only now, two days later, that I have time to reflect on our Little Heroes Day, I am filled with emotion as I recall the many special moments with the children and families. I will carry them all in my heart and they will never be forgotten.

Thank you for posting this and for the love you show our Military families through serving at Little Patriots Embraced.

Warmest Regards,
Carol Watanabe

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Michael B. Smith link
8/2/2017 01:16:14 pm

Carol, we all have things we believe in enough to give of ourselves. Supporting military families who place themselves in often very dangerous, awkward, or stressful situations deserve recognition and help from those of us who benefit from their service.

We are so thankful God lead us to Little Patriots Embraced!

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Ray Amanat link
8/1/2017 12:45:27 pm

Michael, thank you for capturing these moments as it's one thing experiencing them first hand, but to be able to revisit those moments through your photo's any time gives us the opportunity to relive that moment. Those photo's say it all!

Thank you!

Ray Amanat

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Michael B. Smith link
8/2/2017 01:19:24 pm

Ray,

You are always the star with the children you help. Your message and work are so important!

BTW, I corrected my misspelling of your name! Sorry!

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Dana Lopez
8/2/2017 07:48:57 am

Thank you, Mike, for these beautiful words and photos. You and Kathy were wonderful to work with and I am so blessed by your heart to serve and encourage our amazing military families. Keep up the amazing work...and thank you again for helping to make sure Little Heroes Day was full of amazing memories for those precious kids! What a special day it was! It was an honor to be a part of it!

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Michael B. Smith link
8/2/2017 01:24:09 pm

Thank you Dana! The work Dogwood Ranch does for children is phenomenal! I talked to one of your former foster children who told me how you save her life after just a few months with you and your family. God certainly did some of his best work in choosing you and Brian to help children in need!

What a wonderful even you both hosted and organized!

Thank you again!

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Julie Vinnedge link
8/9/2017 09:47:29 pm

Sometimes the words "Thank You" seem so insufficient. Carol with Little Patriots Embraced and Dana of Dogwood Ranch honored our Gold Star families and their children with open arms and warm hearts. Little Heroes Day was an event that I will not forget. To see all of the smiles on these children's faces, to see them laughing, playing and just being kids was way more than I could have wished for. Your support of our Dream Riders event and your love for these children showed throughout the day and in these pictures.

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Michael B. Smith link
8/9/2017 11:48:16 pm

Julie, thank you for your note! It was a true honor to contribute to this day and to meet all the beautiful children who have lost a loved one in service to our country. What you and other Dream Rider volunteers do for these families is simply wonderful...and the perfect way to honor your son and his sacrifice to all of us! Blessed wishes in your future service!

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Rick
9/30/2017 02:33:52 pm

Protesting and disrespect. Your article hit the nail on the head. Thank you.

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