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Dads and Granddads Help Children's Imagination

9/3/2013

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“The moment you doubt whether you can fly, you cease for ever to be able to do it.”
―
J.M. Barrie, Peter Pan  

To children, their imagination is not an escape from reality, it is their reality. There really is tea in that cup and it is delicious! And I am not a grandfather in my sixties. I'm now a little brother who somehow will stop for afternoon tea with his big sister (now that is imagination!)

Imagination is helpful to parents when it occupies the young ones while they can play alone with their dolls or trucks. But sometimes they want you to pretend with them. Ugh! This is not exactly like watching college football or playing golf! But sometimes you've just got to give of yourself and go along. Personally, I've been a mermaid, a fairy, a horse, a monkey, and as I mentioned, a little brother - among other things. I would not want my friends to see me acting out as a mermaid. The monkey thing may have gotten out.

When any one imagines, their world expands and their brain is exercised. This is particularly true for children. But kids imagination needs fertilizer. They need to see and do things that will cause  them to reflect on and expand beyond reality. Reading books to them introduces them to many wonderful things to wonder about. My daughter constantly gives my 5 year old granddaughter projects to do with odds and ends around the house.  They've been to the zoo and science center too many times to count. My daughter and son-in-law keep my granddaughter away from television most of the time, but let her watch 'Animal Planet' and such things. This is good stuff, I think, but I'll let her get away with 'Dora the Explorer' or 'Team Umi Zoomi', occasionally.

Thinking creatively can be increased by your environment as a kid. One study I read stated that only about 10% of creative geniuses are from middle class families. Most are from families of intellectuals, where creative pursuits were strongly encouraged, while about 30% are from poor but hard working families. The secret to creative success seems to be
encouragement to pursue intellectual activity,  either by those parents who know its value firsthand, or by those parents who
know its potential in making the lives of their children better. The middle class falls in between, maybe too comfortable to dream of better things, while not particularly pushed toward intellectual pursuits - not always the environment that stimulates creativity.  

But don't worry about your children being creative geniuses. Just give them the freedom, incentives and ammunition to  imagine.

Oh, and ask them what they see in a billowy cloud
.

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Dads Notice the Little Things, and the Big!

9/2/2013

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What do the two photos above have in common? 

I noticed the clouds, sun and the shadows they created yesterday while I was getting out of my truck. I went in the house, grabbed my camera and took a quick photo. Then I even drove to a nearby park to get a better view. Alas, the one I took first at home was the best. Some of the best moments are fleeting!

In the park there were kids on the playground, a group of young men kicking a soccer ball, and some families picnicking while their kids played in the nearby stream. None of them were looking at the sky, at least not that I could tell. But here I was walking around looking for better angles, with my lens pointed toward the sky. At least we all were enjoying ourselves.

The other photo is my grandson looking out the window of his front door, watching the sprinkler go back and forth. It was taken by his mother who noticed the simplicity of the scene and the emotions it brought forth. This too was a fleeting moment. Maybe not as fleeting as a changing sunset, but ask any parent with grown children and they will tell you just how fleeting it is.

As a Dad, or Mom, consciously notice the little things your children do. What this does is anchor the moment better in your brain for those memories you'll want to remember. It also gives you opportunities to praise, hug, or just say, 'I love you'! (And sometimes to correct!)

What these photos have in common is that the scenes, the moments, had be to noticed first! And there is a difference between being noticed and just being 'looked at'.

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Mike's Blog on Kids, Families, and Dads 

9/1/2013

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"My Dad. He's thinking of me." 

When my son Mike was in preschool, his class was told to draw a picture. Mike drew a large head with a small head next to it. The teacher asked him what the picture was about. He said the big head was his Dad who was thinking about him, the little head representing my thoughts of him.
This really touched me when I saw it over 32 years ago. It told me how important it was to Mike that I cared about him. Like all little boys, and girls,  the need to loved is insatiable. Mike's drawing tells us more about the importance of fatherhood than any book on parenting. Being a Dad is not just about fulfilling a responsibility, its about nurturing a human life to be as healthy, successful, and happy as possible. If the the father is not a part of parenting, the child and society suffers. The need for, challenges, and suggested solutions of fatherhood are discussed herein. Yes, the readers of this blog are thinking of our children.
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